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The Little Things in Life

When you’re suffering from a serious disease, life can be difficult.  You have good days and bad days, and on the bad days it can be really hard to focus on the positive, which is so important for healing.  I struggle with this problem on a regular basis, as I carry on the battle inside myself to reclaim good health.

Two good friends of mine, Noreen and Betty, have helped me to remember how very important the little things in life can be, particularly on the bad days.  Thanks, ladies!

There are some things in life that money can’t buy, such as peace, joy and happiness.  You can experience all of those feelings, though, by learning to appreciate and enjoy the small things in your life.

Although I haven’t had too many bad days recently, I still do have them, and when I do there is nothing that brings me more pleasure than sitting on my bed and watching the birds that come to my bird feeder.

I have some beautiful cardinals that come to eat just about every day.  The male cardinal’s vibrant red color always makes me smile, and seeing him fat and happy (in my mind, anyway) makes me feel like I’m doing my part to keep him that way.

I have a variety of birds that come to partake of the feast regularly, and I enjoy every single one of them.  If the bird is not one that I’m familiar with, I get even more excited.  I use my binoculars to get a really good look at the bird, and then turn to my reference book on birds on the U.S. to find out what the new bird is.

When I’ve watched my birds for a while, I feel happy and relaxed and content with life.  It’s a great way to feel!

Another thing I take great comfort in is my 3 cats (and resident brats) Salem, Blue and Cleo.  Pets have a way of making you feel loved that is always amazing to me.  One of the cats will climb up in my lap, look me in the eye, and “tell” me that it’s time for some loving.  I know all their favorite scratch places, and before long they are purring loudly.  There is something very relaxing about that purring, and I settle down for some one on one time with whichever cat is on my lap.

A few pretty birds and the unconditional love of my kitties brings tremendous pleasure to me, and I can go from feeling down and depressed to feeling relaxed and contented very quickly.

The next time you find yourself having a bad day, look around you, and find the little things in your life that give you pleasure.  Enjoy them.  You’ll feel better for having done that.


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The holidays can be a wonderful time of year, full of love and happiness and family and friends.  The holidays can also be difficult, if all is not well in your life.  If you’re having people problems, money problems, health problems or pretty much any kind of problem and just can’t seem to connect with any holiday spirit, EFT can help to move you to a better place.

Christmas is a perfect time to celebrate and give thanks for all the positive things going on in your life.  Your initial reaction to that statement might be along the lines of “Are you kidding?  My life stinks!”.  If that was your response, you are focused on the negatives in your life, and completely ignoring the positives.  Wouldn’t you feel better about yourself and about life in general if you could turn that around, and recognize that your glass is really half full, not half empty?  EFT can help you to make that change.

If you’re feeling sorry for yourself because your salary doesn’t allow for extras, and you won’t be able to spend a lot on Christmas, how about considering how many people are out of work, and don’t have any salary at all?  You may not be rich, but if you have a regular paycheck and can take care of the basics, you’re in much better shape than all of those who are unemployed.

Perhaps you’ve recently gone through a divorce, have lost a close friend, or have moved to a new area where you don’t know anyone yet.  You’re feeling very isolated and lonely as Christmas approaches.  You may still be acutely feeling that loss, but there really are different and better ways of looking at the situation.  This is the start of a new chapter in your life, with infinite possibilities.  Instead of looking back and grieving the loss, how about trying to look ahead at your new beginning with anticipation and excitement?

Christmas is a time when family conflicts tend to bubble to the surface.  You may have had a falling out with a family member that would normally be a part of your celebration, but won’t be there this year.  You may be spending more time with a family member that is difficult to cope with, with feelings of stress and anger building by the day.  When there are conflicts within the family, there is nearly always some guilt associated with those conflicts.  After all, this is your family, and you’re all supposed to love each other and get along, right?

The Christmas holidays are often a time when we have unrealistic expectations for 0urselves and others.  Many people look forward to the “perfect family Christmas” and ignore the fact that there isn’t much in life that’s perfect.  Expecting to have the “perfect Christmas dinner” or to receive the “perfect Christmas gift” is unrealistic, and you are setting yourself up for disappointment.  Why not lower your expectations, and accept that we’re all just human, just sort of go with the flow, recognizing that just as you have holiday stressors, so do all your family members?

The tapping scripts below was created to help you deal with the various issues that arise during the holidays, and to find positives where you formerly found only negatives. They are each meant to be a starting point. Add your own words and feelings as appropriate.

Christmas Blues Tapping Scripts: Choose the one(s) appropriate for you!

Finances: Setup — Karate chop:

  • Even though I wish I had enough money to buy terrific presents for the people I love, I know in my heart that Christmas isn’t about money or gifts, and I’m making a choice to enjoy this Christmas and to be grateful for what I have, and not worry about what I don’t have, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.


  • Eyebrow: I wish I had more money to spend on Christmas
  • Outside eye: But I know that Christmas really isn’t about money
  • Under eye: People won’t love me less if I don’t buy them expensive gifts
  • Under nose: Loved ones around me, a beautiful Christmas dinner
  • Chin: I can take great joy from those precious things
  • Collar bone: I’m making a choice to celebrate Christmas in the best way I can
  • Under arm: I’m letting go of those feelings that I have to spend money for Christmas to be good
  • Top of head: And I’m embracing the knowledge that Christmas can be joyful, even without money or gifts.

Family Conflicts: Setup — Karate chop:

  • Even though ___________ is getting on my last nerve this Christmas, and I’m find it hard to enjoy and celebrate the holiday, I know that ____________ has demands on him/her too, and maybe I should be a bit more patient and accepting with him/her, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself and __________ .


  • Eyebrow: _________ is really getting on my nerves
  • Outside eye: I’m angry because I feel like he/she is ruining my Christmas
  • Under eye: I’m open to the idea that I’m being too hard on ________
  • Under nose: Maybe it’s time to cut _________ some slack
  • Chin: And while I’m at it, maybe I should cut myself some slack too
  • Collar bone: I’m ready to start letting go of this anger
  • Under arm: A little at a time, in a way that feels comfortable to me
  • Top of head: Letting go of the anger and bringing some healing to this

Loneliness:  Setup — Karate chop:

  • Even though I’m feeling lonely and isolated this holiday season, I’m open to the idea that there are actions I can take to interact with others, and I choose to seek out and celebrate the positive things in my life, and to start letting go of those feelings of loneliness, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.


  • Eyebrow: I feel so all alone at Christmas
  • Outside eye: Nobody to celebrate with except myself
  • Under eye: But maybe I need to take another look at this situation
  • Under nose: Maybe I can participate in holiday activities and meet new people
  • Chin: Maybe I can reconnect with people from my past
  • Collar bone: There ARE things I can do to change this
  • Under arm: I’m going to do my best to make this a good Christmas
  • Top of head: I’m going to stop feeling sorry for myself, and celebrate

Unrealistic Expectations:  Setup — Karate Chop:

  • Even though I have high expectations for myself and others in my life this Christmas, I’m open to the idea that those expectations may be unrealistic, and I’m ready to embrace more realistic expectations, and to stop being so hard on myself and my loved ones, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself and others just as we are.


  • Eyebrow: I’m not cutting anyone any slack this Christmas
  • Outside eye: Not even myself
  • Under eye: I expect this to be a perfect Christmas
  • Under nose: But is there really such a thing?
  • Chin: I’m open to the possibility that this can be a good Christmas
  • Collar bone: Without being perfect
  • Under arm: Maybe I can just relax and enjoy the holiday
  • Top of head: And take all that pressure off myself and everyone else

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I worked in the IT field for 20 years. For most of that time, I loved my job and my boss, and felt like I was making a difference. Then there was a political shake-up, upper management was dismissed, and a boss I had tremendous respect for was replaced by a man that I knew to be both incompetent and vindictive. Suddenly I found myself in the job from hell.

I know all too well what it’s like to work in a place where you are not appreciated, not respected, and are generally treated like dirt. In all fairness, I have to say that just about everyone was treated like dirt, which didn’t help with group morale in the least.

It’s a terrible feeling to go into work each day wondering what bad things will happen, and who will be fired, and whether you yourself will have a job at the end of the day. Fairly quickly I got to a place of dreading going to work each day. As soon as I woke and my feet hit the floor, my first thought was “Oh, no..I have to go to that place!”.

As stress levels rose on the job, and the situation became more and more emotionally charged for the entire staff, I started searching for a way to deal with that overwhelming stress. It was at that point that I stumbled across EFT, and I really believe that it saved my life.

After downloading the free EFT manual and learning the basics, I began using EFT daily on the job. After a stressful meeting or a difficult confrontation with the boss, I tapped. Honestly, some of my coworkers thought I was a bit wacky, and laughed at me, but I didn’t care. I kept right on tapping, and it became clear fairly quickly that EFT was an effective tool.

I was about a year away from being able to retire, and my main objective was to survive until retirement. There wasn’t a day that went by that I didn’t tap. No matter what the issue was, EFT helped.

In October of 2008 I finally reached the minimum age for retirement, filed all my paperwork, and happily marched out the door on my last day with a big smile on my face. I’m now enjoying my second career, as an EFT practitioner, and hope to keep spreading the message about what a wonderful technique EFT is for a long time to come!

If you’re in a job that’s driving you crazy, and are forced to work for someone who makes every day miserable, here’s a tapping script for you.

Karate chop:

  • Even though I dread going in to work every single day, and my boss is a jerk who drives me crazy, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I’m overwhelmed with stress because my boss is such a jerk and he makes everything harder than it has to be, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though my stress levels are through the roof, and I feel like my job and my boss are killing me, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself, and I’m considering that maybe I can let go of some of this stress and feel a whole lot better.

Eyebrow: My job is so miserable
Side of eye: And my boss is such a jerk
Under eye: I dread going in every single day
Under nose: I always feel so much stress
Chin: Stress that makes my whole body tight
Collar bone: And makes me anxious and upset
Under arm: It’s so hard to deal with my boss
Top of head: He/she is such an unreasonable person.

Eyebrow: I’m having trouble dealing with the stress
Side of eye: I’m like a rubber band pulled too tight
Under eye: But I’m considering that maybe I can start working
Under nose: On letting go of some of that stress
Chin: I just can’t handle all this stress
Collar bone: So I’m choosing to start releasing it
Under arm: Letting that stress just flow out of my body
Top of head: And replacing it with a feeling of peace.

Eyebrow: This stress is so bad for me
Side of eye: I’m choosing to just let it go
Under eye: Breathing out stress with every breath
Under nose: And breathing in peace and relaxation
Chin: Letting those negative feelings just drain away
Collar bone: And enjoying feeling more at peace
Under arm: Letting go of the last of that stress
Top of head: And replacing that stress with an energy of peace and healing.

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