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In a perfect world, we all would be calm and serene, and our interactions with others would always be kind and considerate, as would their interactions with us. Sadly, this is not a perfect world.

We all have days when we get up on the wrong side of the bed, or when something upsetting or stressful has happened, and we just can’t let go of it.  Just as we have those kinds of days, so do all the people that we interact with — family, friends, coworkers, neighbors.  Even the most thoughtful of people can find themselves being short with someone else because they’ve had a bad day.  It happens.

Wen someone else is inconsiderate, thoughtless or downright rude with us, it’s easy to go to a place of annoyance, anger, or hurt and to find yourself muttering something like “I didn’t do anything to deserve that.  ________ really hurt my feelings”.  You may be a “give as good as I get” kind of person, and lash out.  It’s doesn’t help..it just makes things more difficult.

When you find yourself in this kind of situation, why not step back and try to see the situation through the eyes of the other person?  Did your son or daughter just get pushed around by the neighborhood bully?  Did your husband have a run-in with his boss?  Did your neighbor just find out that his/her job is in jeopardy?  Wouldn’t you be upset if you were in that situation?

It’s entirely possible that the best thing you could do for all concerned is to step back with a smile, and with the understanding that what happened may have had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with whatever situation is going on in that person’s life.

There is a difference, though, between choosing to not point the finger, and allowing people to walk all over you.  If you know of something going on in the other person’s life, that may give you the motivation to not engage them in an angry or confrontational way.  If you have no idea what might be going on, give that person the benefit of the doubt.  If the behavior happens again, maybe you could try talking to that person and trying to sort things out.

Most important is not to assume that you’re being attacked verbally or insulted in some way.  You have bad days, I have bad days, we all have bad days.  I wouldn’t like having anyone assume the worst about me on one of my bad days.  I’m usually a kind person, but a financial problem or an argument with a friend or family member might have pushed me over the edge emotionally.  Bottom line..give others the consideration that you would like to have extended to yourself.

Tapping Script For Not Taking Things Personally

Setup – Karate Chop:

  • Even though I’m sometimes quick to jump to the conclusion that others are passing judgment on me, I’m ready for that to change, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though what happened really hurt my feelings, I’m open to the idea that ________ might have been having a bad day, or might be feeling upset or stressed, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though I’m upset with __________ right now, I’m willing consider letting go of that feeling, and bringing some healing to this, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Reminders:

Eyebrow: I’m really upset with __________
Side of eye: _________ didn’t have to act the way he/she did
Under eye: It was insulting
Under nose: It was upsetting
Chin: I didn’t deserve that kind of treatment
Collar bone: When someone hurts me that way
Under arm: Sometimes I feel like hurting them right back
Top of head: Maybe it’s time to bring some peace to this.

Eyebrow: I don’t like being treated that way
Side of eye: But maybe _________ was just having a bad day
Under eye: It felt very personal when it happened
Under nose: But maybe there was nothing personal about it
Chin: I’m ready to start letting go of some of this hurt
Collar bone: I’m ready to move toward healing
Under arm: Starting to release those hurt feelings
Top of head: Transforming that hurt to an energy of peace.

Eyebrow: Breathing out more and more of the hurt
Side of eye:
Feeling my body start to relax
Under eye: I’m ready to cut ________ some slack
Under nose: And to move on from there
Chin: Continuing to release those hurt feelings
Collar bone: I’m feeling better about myself
Under arm: And I’m feeling better about _________ too
Top of head: Tranforming the last of the hurt into a healing energy.


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Every parent has days during which their children drive them to the verge of insanity. They’re just being kids, and doing what kids do, but that’s not always easy for parents to handle.

I can clearly remember when my son was 2 years old, and I called my sister in tears, because my son woke up before me, took an entire tube of toothpaste, and squeezed it all around the toilet seat. I was 3/4 asleep, and never even noticed the toothpaste, so I sat down right on it. YUCK!!! Not a good way to start the day.

If you’re raising children, those days are inevitable, but you don’t have to stay half crazed if you use EFT. For your tapping pleasure, here is a sample tapping script for the days when your kids drive you crazy.

Setup: (Karate chop)

  • Even though my kids are driving me crazy and I’m having trouble staying in control of my temper, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though my kids are doing things that try my patience, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though my kids are getting on my last nerve, and are pushing me to the limit, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself, and I’m reminding myself that they’re just being kids!

Eyebrow: Feeling frustrated that my kids are driving me nuts!
Side of eye: I just can’t take this any more
Under eye: I’m feeling like I might lose my temper
Under nose: And I’m finding it hard to remember
Chin: That they’re only being kids
Collar bone: So much frustration and anger
Under arm: Feeling really upset with my kids
Top of head: And with the way they’re behaving.

Eyebrow: So frustrated with my kids
Side of eye: They know how to push my buttons
Under eye: But maybe I need to find some peace with this
Under nose: And start to let go of the frustration
Chin: They’re just doing what kids do
Collar bone: Same as I did when I was young
Under arm: Maybe I’m over-reacting
Top of head: Letting go of that frustration.

Eyebrow: Letting the frustration just flow away
Side of eye: Replacing it with peace and acceptance
Under eye: Focusing on the love I feel for my kids
Under nose: And how much they mean to me
Chin: Feeling good about those positive emotions
Collar bone: Letting go of the negative
Under arm: Transforming all the frustration and anger
Top of head: Into an energy of healing and peace.

Now go give your kids a big hug and tell that that you love them!

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I had an errand to do today on the other side of town. Normally no big deal, but today there was some construction going on. The construction crew was blocking traffic in both directions, and only allowing a certain number of cars through from 1 direction before stopping that line of cars and allowing cars from the other direction.

Traffic was badly backed up, and vehicles were moving through the construction zone at a crawl. When it comes to that sort of situation, I tend to be a Type A personality, chomping at the bit, spouting obscenities that nobody can hear but me, and trying to move the traffic through force of will.

My normal strategy didn’t work well for me today. I had a client scheduled and had to be back home by a certain time, and if traffic didn’t start moving, I was going to be late. My willpower was clearly not making the cars move through the construction any faster. Then suddenly, the light came on! EFT, right there at my fingertips, ready to use. And I did.

I may have had a few people looking at me and wondering what the heck I was doing, as I tapped through the points, but at that point, I really didn’t care. I just needed to relax and go with the flow. It took 3 rounds (I was awfully anxious), but after those rounds, I felt relaxed and no longer was in danger of the top of head blowing off. Suddenly it didn’t seem like the traffic was moving quite as slowly, and before I knew it, I was on the other side of the construction.

What a wonderful tool EFT is! Always there for you to use, no matter where you are or what’s going on. Fast, easy, and reliable in terms of getting results. Got EFT? If not, you should check it out.

Setup Phrase for Stuck-in-Traffic Rant
KC – Even though I’m stuck in this &$^(#^#%^@ traffic and it isn’t moving, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, and I trust that I’ll get where I need to be in time.
Reminder Phrases
EB – I hate this ^%*$#(#$& traffic
SE – It’s driving me crazy to be stuck like this
UE – I’m so frustrated
UN – I need to be somewhere
CH – Why are the cars moving so slowly?
CB- This &^%*($( traffic!
UA – It’s making me feel stressed
TH – I hate this traffic

EB – I feel stressed about being stuck here
SE – But maybe I won’t be stuck much longer
UE – This is soooo frustrating
UN – But maybe I’m over-reacting
UL – The cars just aren’t moving
CH – But I’m hopeful that they’ll move soon
CB – I’m stressed about this traffic
UA – But I choose to transform that stress
TH – Into an energy of peace

EB – This traffic is so frustrating
SE – But it has to start moving soon
UE – I still have enough time
UN – I can make it home for my appointment
CH – I choose to transform this negative emotion
CB – Into a positive energy of peace
UA – I choose to trust
TH – That the universe will get me home in time.

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