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When you are diagnosed with any sort of serious illness, you go through many different feelings and emotions.  You question the fairness of life, and no… it isn’t fair.  You find yourself asking the question “Why me?”.  Most of us consider ourselves to be good people, and we certainly all know people who don’t fall under the category of good.  That leads to considering why something like that would happen to us.

For myself, and for many others too, this takes us down an uncomfortable path.  Could it possibly be that I deserve to be sick?

I was deeply shocked to realize that I truly did think that I deserved to be sick.  I thought back to all the bad things I had done in my life, and saw them as the reasons for the illness.  Suddenly it all made sense–if I had been a better person and lived a better life, I wouldn’t be sick now!

On a logical level, this may sound silly, but on a gut level it can feel very real.  For me, it was one more thing to worry about, in addition to all my ongoing physical problems…one more thing I didn’t need or want.

If you feel that you are to blame for your own illness, the tapping script below may help you to release those feelings.

TAPPING SCRIPT FOR BLAMING YOURSELF

Setup:

  • Even though I feel like I am to blame for my own illness, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though I feel like if I were a better person, I wouldn’t be sick, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though a part of me feels like I deserve to be sick, I deeply and completely love and accept myself, and I’m open to the idea that I could be wrong about that.

Reminder phrases:

Eyebrow: I have nobody to blame but myself for being sick.
Outside eye: I deserve to be sick because I wasn’t always a good person.
Under eye: The things I did in my life earned me this illness.
Under nose: It’s very upsetting for me to think about, but this is my fault.
Chin: I hate feeling like this about myself.
Collar bone: I can’t seem to find peace about this issue.
Under arm: I hurt myself and everyone that I love.
Top of head: But maybe there’s a better way to look at this.

Eyebrow: I think that I caused this illness myself
Outside eye:
But I’m willing to consider that might not be true
Under eye:
I may not have always been perfect
Under nose:
But I was the best person that I knew how to be
Chin:
There must be some reason why I’m sick
Collar bone: But does anyone really deserve to be sick?
Under arm:
Absolutely not!!!
Top of head:
I can learn to cope with this illness without feeling guilty.

Eyebrow: My behavior did not cause my illness
Outside eye:
I won’t waste my time and energy worrying about that
Under eye:
I choose to focus on the positives in my life
Under nose: I can feel better physically and emotionally by keeping it positive
Chin:
My decision is to forgive myself for anything that I feel I did wrong
Collar bone:
Holding onto those negative feelings isn’t serving me well
Under arm:
I choose to smile instead of cry
Top of head:
My body responds to those smiles and that forgiveness, and I’m feeling better.

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Tapping Support Group

Are you interested in becoming part of a tapping support group?  My personal focus is on cancer, but I know that a lot of the issues I am dealing with are common for anyone dealing with a serious disease.
The group would “meet” weekily on my conference line and there would be no charge to participate.  My hope is that we can support each other.
If you are interested in participating, please reply to pat@seeking-serenity.com .

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