As I have tapped my way through a variety of problems over the last year, I learned one lesson that has been incredibly important to my healing journey. That lesson is that as amazing as EFT can be, you can’t forget about forgiveness when working through your issues.
I grew up in a household where the message was that I never quite did anything well enough. My sister excelled, and I was always second string.
I went on to marry a man who berated me on a daily basis. No matter what went wrong in our lives, it was my fault. I believed him, and I took ownership of that blame and guilt.
As I tried to tap my way through all my family issues, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I had to find forgiveness in my heart for those who had heaped all that blame and emotional abuse on me. It wasn’t easy, because I didn’t particularly want to forgive, but I did.
When I continued to have emotional intensity over these issues, I was puzzled. What was I doing wrong? What had I forgotten? I started thinking about all the people in my life who had wronged me, and I realized with deep shock that of all the people in my life that I resented, I resented myself the most! A part of me still believed that I was responsible for a lot of bad things happening.
Once I had this epiphany, and moved on to tapping in forgiveness for myself, the results were profound. There were so many things I blamed myself for about which I could finally either say “Not my fault” or “Okay, I did it, but it’s in the past and I can let go of it”.
If you are struggling with working through issues from your past, please don’t forget about forgiveness. Being unable to forgive others ultimately only hurts <i>you</i>, and being unable to forgive yourself precludes the possibility of letting go of all that baggage, and moving on.
Forgiveness. Keep it in your tapping routines, and in your heart!