Archive for August, 2009

Recently I was leading a small group of tappers in weekly tap-togethers.  Once of our main objectives was to try eliminating unhealthy junk food from our diets.  When you have a weakness for a certain kind of snack food, it can be incredibly difficult to not eat that particular kind of food.  Even if there aren’t any cravings involved, the mere mention of something for which you have a special liking can send you scurrying to the kitchen in search of something…sometimes anything!…if you don’t have that food in the house.


Having watched some of Paul McKenna’s videos, I knew that one of the tactics that he used to help people was what I would call aversion therapy.  He used a variation of EFT to tap on that particular food, while combining it with something disgusting that would cause you to not want to eat that food. 

One thing that our small group agreed on was that we needed to find a way to say no to donuts.  It’s fine to drive through Dunkin Donuts and get a cup of their wonderful coffee, but when you add donuts to the equation, you’re in trouble. 

I allowed my creative instincts to run wild as I created this tapping script on the fly, and several months later, not one of us has eaten a donut.  Why not give the script a try if donuts are a problem for you?  If your problem lies with other snack foods, try adapting the script to suit you.

Tapping Script For Saying NO To Donuts

Karate chop:

  • Even though donuts are really tasty, and I love having a donut or two with my cup of coffee, I know that they’re not healthy for me, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though there is nothing as good with my coffee as a nice fresh donut, I realize that donuts are loaded with fat, and are really bad for me, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself, but I’m ready to ditch  the donuts.
  • Even though donuts may taste wonderful, I know how unhealthy it is to eat them, and that they’re clogging up my arteries with each bite that I take, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself as I search for a healthy alternative to donuts.

Eyebrow: I love to have donuts with my coffee
Side of eye: Fresh donuts are so yummy
Under eye: But I know that donuts are loaded with fat
Under nose:  Fat that clogs my arteries
Chin:  Donuts are loaded with sugar too
Collar bone:  So many calories in each little bite
Under arm:  Donuts are delicious
Top of head:  But I know how really bad they are for me.

Eyebrow:  They cook donuts in oil
Side of eye: Huge vats of oil
Under eye: I can see those donuts floating around
Under nose: Bobbing in all that oil
Chin: Bobbing for donuts
Collar bone: In that smelly, smoking, throat choking, boiling oil!
Under arm: So much fat in those donuts
Top of head:  That’s really disgusting!

Eyebrow:  I do love my donuts
Side of eye: But I’m ready to give them up
Under eye:  All that fat and sugar
Under nose: Is really bad for me
Chin: Still seeing those donuts bobbing in hot fat
Collar bone: And thinking about how disgusting that is
Under arm: Choosing to look for a more healthy alternative
Top of head:  And saying NO to fatty, sugary donuts from now on.

A special thank you to my twim Donna for help in tweaking this script!

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Anger is a part of all our lives.  If we’re really fortunate, we may not have a lot of people around us that make us mad.  If we’re less fortunate, we may find that every day is a test for us, and that we spend an awful lot of time trying to stay calm in the face of irritations, aggravations and stressors. 

I was married to a man for 12 years that didn’t think anything I did was right.  He infuriated me by nit picking about every detail of our lives.  If I went to the trouble of baking a cake for him, it was too dry.  If I cooked a nice dinner, the food wasn’t hot enough.  If I dusted all the furniture, I missed a few spots.  You get the general idea. 

I have long since divorced that jerk, and thereby bought a lot more serenity into my life.  At the time that I was married to him, EFT didn’t yet exist, else I might have found serenity a lot sooner.

If you have someone in your life that seems to be constantly making you mad, whether it’s a spouse, a child, a parent, a neighbor or a coworker, EFT is the perfect way to deal with that anger.  It works quickly and easily and leaves you feeling relaxed and at ease, once the anger has drained out of your body. 

Two or three rounds of tapping can make a profound difference in you attitude, and can allow you to much more easily make it through the day.

Below is a sample tapping script for anger at your spouse, but the words can easily be changed to better suit your specific needs.  Give it a try, and let that anger go right now with EFT!

Tapping Script For Anger at a Spouse

Karate chop: 

  • Even though I feel a lot of anger at my husband/wife, and I feel like he/she makes my life much more difficult than it needs to be, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I’m really mad at my husband/wife for being _______ (demanding, unreasonable, argumentative, etc.) and that anger makes my whole body feel as tight as an overstretched rubber band, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I feel like I’m angry at my husband/wife all of the time because of the way he/she acts, I know that the anger is only hurting me, and I’m open to starting to let go of some of that anger, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

Eyebrow: I’m so angry at my husband/wife
Side of eye: My husband/wife constantly picks at me about everything
Under eye: Nit picking and criticism is the order of the day
Under nose: And that makes me really, really mad
Chin: I can feel that anger all through my body
Collar bone: Every muscle is stretched too tight
Under arm: I’m tired of feeling all tied up in knots
Top of head: By all the anger that I’m dealing with.

Eyebrow: I’m full of anger at my husband/wife
Side of eye: But I’m willing to consider starting to let go of that anger
Under eye: That anger is keeping me stressed and upset
Under nose: And I’m ready to start feeling better about this
Chin: Starting to release some of that anger
Collar bone: And feeling my body relax, a little at a time
Under arm: Letting go of that feeling of being strung too tight
Top of head: And enjoying the feeling as my muscles start to relax.

Eyebrow: My anger isn’t serving me well
Side of eye: And I know that it’s time to get rid of it
Under eye: Letting the anger drain right out of my body
Under nose: With every breath that I take
Chin: And replacing that anger with a feeling of peace
Collar bone: Feeling better and better as I keep tapping
Under arm: And loving that I’m feeling better and more relaxed
Top of head: As I move toward a place of healing and inner peace.

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Anxiety and worry are part of everyone’s life these days. Marrying, having children, working, getting the bills paid..those are all anxiety provoking. There really isn’t a way to eliminate anxiety and worry from our lives, but by using EFT, we can neutralize a lot of that worry, allowing us to come from a much more positive place in our day to day lives.

One of the most frustrating kinds of worry is when we worry about things over which we have absolutely no control. If you’re a mother worrying about whether your kids are safe, you do everything in your power to make sure that they are safe. If, however, you’re worried about that big storm that you heard about on TV coming in your direction, outside of making the proper preparations for such a situation, it’s all out of your hands. You can make sure that you’re ready if the storm hits, but you can’t push the storm front off in a different direction.

When you find yourself worrying about things that you can’t possibly change, and that worry is impacting on your life, it’s time to do something about it, and EFT is exactly what you need. Take the steps that you need to take in order to be well prepared, and then whip out your EFT toolbox and get to work, and you’ll find that worrying less enhances the quality of your life.

EFT Tapping Script For Worry and Anxiety

Karate chop:

  • Even though I worry a lot about all kinds of things, and that really wears me out, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I spend so much time worrying that it exhausts me, and some of what I worry about I can’t change, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I know that I worry way too much, I feel like I have to be on top of things, but a lot of times all that worrying doesn’t help a bit, and I’m thinking that it may be time to start letting go of that worry, and I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

Eyebrow: I worry all the time
Side of eye: I’m always fretting about something
Under eye: But a lot of the time
Under nose: What I’m worried about, I can’t change
Chin: Putting so much energy into worrying
Collar bone: That I’m wearing myself out
Under arm: I’m constantly worrying about something
Top of head: And I’m tired of dealing with all that worry.

Eyebrow: So much worry in my life
Side of eye: But is that worry serving any purpose?
Under eye: I’m using all my energy on worrying
Under nose: So I have no energy left for myself
Chin: I know I worry too much
Collar bone: And it weighs me down emotionally
Under arm: Maybe it’s time to start looking at
Top of head: Letting go of all that worry.

Eyebrow: All that worrying that I do
Side of eye: But I’m choosing to start releasing the worry
Under eye: I’m letting the worry just flow out of me
Under nose: As I move toward a place of peace
Chin: Releasing all that worry a little at a time
Collar bone: In a way that feels comfortable for me
Under arm: Letting go of the last of my worry
Top of head: And transforming that worry to a healing energy.

If you feel that the script above is not approrpriate for you, and you find yourself with very specific worries, don’t be afraid to create your own tapping statements, using the feelings and emotions that you have about that worry.

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Pain is our body sending us a message!

No matter what the cause of the pain is, our body is telling us to pay attention, and that’s what we need to do. There is always a reason for the message, whether we recognize it or not.

womaninpainIt’s a medical fact that our emotions trigger different chemicals in our bodies. Happy emotions can produce healing and calming chemicals, but negative emotions can create disease causing chemistry in our bodies. You’re probably already familiar with how stress contributes to high blood pressure, headaches and body pain, depending on where in your body your hold your stress. It’s common for people to hold stress across their shoulders and neck, resulting in what can be chronic pain in those areas.

What if it’s ALL physical?

Even for pain with a definite physical origin, EFT can be very effective. If you suffer from something like arthritic joints, you’ll probably have to tap periodically in order to maintain a level of comfort, but you can definitely use EFT to make yourself much more comfortable, no matter what the source of your pain is.

I’ve had 2 bad discs in my spine for years, and my back would periodically “go out”, sometimes putting me in bed for days, but with regular tapping I find that I seldom have problems with my back, and can lay in any position at night, which I was not able to do previously.

How to create your own tapping statements for pain.

  • Really TUNE IN to the pain
  • Be very aware of where the pain is and exactly how it feels.
  • Describe the pain: – be very specific
    1. Location: Exactly where in your body is the pain? For example, if you have a pain in your right leg, be specific about where in your leg it is, as in “Even though I have this pain in the back middle of my thigh…”
    2. Color: If your pain had a color, what would it be? Visualize the pain in your mind.
    3. Size: How big is your pain? Is it the size of a tennis ball, or is it so big that it feels like it fills your chest or stomach or back or whatever?
    4. What does the pain remind you of?: Does it feel like a knife sticking in you, or a band tightening around you, or a jagged piece of glass? Really get into that feeling and describe it.
    5. What is the pain level? On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the worst pain, how bad is your pain?
  • Create your tapping statement using the words that you came up with to describe your pain.
  • Tap 2 to 3 rounds using those tapping statements.
  • Reassess pain level and do additional rounds of tapping as needed to bring your pain level down to zero.

Example Script: Tapping for knee pain

Karate chop:

  • Even though I have a sharp pain in my left knee that feels like someone stuck a knife in my knee, and that really hurts, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though my left knee really hurts, and it feels like I have jagged red glass in my knee, that cuts every time I move, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
  • Even though the sharp pain in my left knee makes it painful for me to walk, and I hate not being able to get around the way I want to, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Eyebrow: All that pain in my left knee
Side of eye: It hurts a lot
Under eye: The pain makes it hard to walk
Under nose: It feels like jagged glass in my knee
Chin: So painful
Collar bone: Red, jagged glass inside my knee
Under arm: Hurting every time I move my leg
Top of head: Hurting every time I try to walk.

Eyebrow: This pain makes me miserable
Side of eye: But I’m choosing to work on releasing the pain
Under eye: Making the decision to let go of the pain
Under nose: And to be able to move my leg comfortably
Chin: I hate having this pain in my knee
Collar bone: Letting go of that pain, a little at a time
Under arm: Moving toward feeling comfortable with my knee
Top of head: As I release the sharp pain.

Eyebrow: Continuing to let go of the pain in my left knee
Side of eye: Trusting that I’ll be able to walk comfortably
Under eye: Letting go of the red, jagged pain in my left knee
Under nose: Confident that this pain will go away
Chin: Looking forward to moving around in comfort
Collar bone: Knowing that I’ll be able to walk with ease
Under arm: Loving the feeling of confidence
Top of head: That the pain in my knee is gone.

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I worked in the IT field for 20 years. For most of that time, I loved my job and my boss, and felt like I was making a difference. Then there was a political shake-up, upper management was dismissed, and a boss I had tremendous respect for was replaced by a man that I knew to be both incompetent and vindictive. Suddenly I found myself in the job from hell.

I know all too well what it’s like to work in a place where you are not appreciated, not respected, and are generally treated like dirt. In all fairness, I have to say that just about everyone was treated like dirt, which didn’t help with group morale in the least.

It’s a terrible feeling to go into work each day wondering what bad things will happen, and who will be fired, and whether you yourself will have a job at the end of the day. Fairly quickly I got to a place of dreading going to work each day. As soon as I woke and my feet hit the floor, my first thought was “Oh, no..I have to go to that place!”.

As stress levels rose on the job, and the situation became more and more emotionally charged for the entire staff, I started searching for a way to deal with that overwhelming stress. It was at that point that I stumbled across EFT, and I really believe that it saved my life.

After downloading the free EFT manual and learning the basics, I began using EFT daily on the job. After a stressful meeting or a difficult confrontation with the boss, I tapped. Honestly, some of my coworkers thought I was a bit wacky, and laughed at me, but I didn’t care. I kept right on tapping, and it became clear fairly quickly that EFT was an effective tool.

I was about a year away from being able to retire, and my main objective was to survive until retirement. There wasn’t a day that went by that I didn’t tap. No matter what the issue was, EFT helped.

In October of 2008 I finally reached the minimum age for retirement, filed all my paperwork, and happily marched out the door on my last day with a big smile on my face. I’m now enjoying my second career, as an EFT practitioner, and hope to keep spreading the message about what a wonderful technique EFT is for a long time to come!

If you’re in a job that’s driving you crazy, and are forced to work for someone who makes every day miserable, here’s a tapping script for you.

Karate chop:

  • Even though I dread going in to work every single day, and my boss is a jerk who drives me crazy, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though I’m overwhelmed with stress because my boss is such a jerk and he makes everything harder than it has to be, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
  • Even though my stress levels are through the roof, and I feel like my job and my boss are killing me, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself, and I’m considering that maybe I can let go of some of this stress and feel a whole lot better.

Eyebrow: My job is so miserable
Side of eye: And my boss is such a jerk
Under eye: I dread going in every single day
Under nose: I always feel so much stress
Chin: Stress that makes my whole body tight
Collar bone: And makes me anxious and upset
Under arm: It’s so hard to deal with my boss
Top of head: He/she is such an unreasonable person.

Eyebrow: I’m having trouble dealing with the stress
Side of eye: I’m like a rubber band pulled too tight
Under eye: But I’m considering that maybe I can start working
Under nose: On letting go of some of that stress
Chin: I just can’t handle all this stress
Collar bone: So I’m choosing to start releasing it
Under arm: Letting that stress just flow out of my body
Top of head: And replacing it with a feeling of peace.

Eyebrow: This stress is so bad for me
Side of eye: I’m choosing to just let it go
Under eye: Breathing out stress with every breath
Under nose: And breathing in peace and relaxation
Chin: Letting those negative feelings just drain away
Collar bone: And enjoying feeling more at peace
Under arm: Letting go of the last of that stress
Top of head: And replacing that stress with an energy of peace and healing.

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